You’re Not Sexting That Girl You Found Online. He’s a Dude. 

As a man who works online most of the day, I’m bombarded with Email spam, Friend Requests and various Ads from Women who are seemingly interested in me.  All this, without even having to look for them.  They pop in my email box or as Facebook Friend Requests and are just as quickly discarded as Spam. 

What happens when I am the one searching for a sexy chat partner? Good News. There are tons of them!

When you go online, you can find a plethora of people ready and willing to sext with you 24/7.  Most adult websites are overflowing with women who want to exchange Snapchat, Skype, Whatsapp, or Kik IDs. This is not only on Adult Websites. On Reddit, dirtyr4r is just one of many places where people seek partners, and it has over 740,000 members.  Notoriously, Facebook and Snapchat also host such Groups. At first glance, this seems encouraging.

It’s easy to assume that there are plenty of Women looking for a Sexting Partner. After all, we live in an age where female empowerment is at an all-time high and, according to a Kinsey Institute study, over half of women are sexting.

What happens when you actually contact these horny women? Bad News : They’re dudes just like you!

According to Salon, an alarming number of women you meet online will be men. The Dating Site Plenty of Fish closed its “Intimate Encounters” section after realizing it was “a bunch of horny men talking to a bunch of horny men pretending to be women”.  Another  example, there are dozens of communities on Reddit dedicated to connecting people who are seeking sexting partners either by platform or by kink, but the introduction warns that there will be spam and mostly younger men participating.

Why is this?

Welcome to the world of eWhoring.

Sexting men online for money can be quite lucrative, which is why many men have started posing as women to cash in on the profits. Cosmopolitan estimates that eWhores easily make hundreds of dollars per week and more. Essentially, eWhoring is catfishing on steroids. 

But what’s eWhoring?

eWhoring is a term for the practice of a man posing as a woman online who sexts with other men for money. According to Serene-Risc, eWhoring is when a man defrauds someone online by selling photos (usually nudes) of a young woman.

This is not just considered unethical, it’s also illegal. The pictures these men use for sexting are often stolen, according to a BBC documentary. The person they defraud sends them money for the pictures. Not only do they typically not have consent from the woman depicted in the photos, but they could also be breaking copyright laws depending on where the content came from. Furthermore, since money changes hands, eWhoring also qualifies as fraud.

Since eWhoring isn’t a legal practice, this means that no one checks the IDs of the content creator. Men can’t even be sure the person in the photos or videos is of age, so they could unwittingly be collecting child porn.

Meet Bob, your new Sexting partner.

BobBob, a guy whose Ethics are rather elastic, has time on his hands and is attracted to the idea of being a ‘cyber pimp’ to make money.  All he has to do is a few Google searches to find everything he needs.

There are now tutorials abound with tips on  how to get into eWhoring found on sites like Reddit. For the man posing as a woman, they typically buy “eWhoring Packs”, which are sets of content including photos and videos of a particular girl. Then, they’ll create a fake identity, complete with an email address, birthday, name, and backstory.

Here’s a simple way for Bob to start eWhoring.

First, Bob needs to decide how he’s going to collect money from his victims.  He can choose to get paid directly via Paypal or Cashapp. He may also decide he wants payment to Amazon Gift Cards.


If Bob was a bit more experienced, he could instead join an Adult Dating Affiliate Program, where he would be paid up to $50 by the Dating Company when his victims submit a Credit Card for a ‘Free Trial’.  How would Bob earn so much if Customer does not pay right now? Simple – These ‘Free Trials’ are in fact a scheme where Customer agrees his card will be automatically billed in a few days while he is automatically subscribed to several other Adult Websites.  It’s in small characters at the bottom of the Join page and the checkbox is pre-selected.  But horny guys may not be there to read through all the small print, nor are most people online.

eWhoring Pack

An eWhoring Pack found on MEGA and shared on forums

Next, Bob needs images and video clips.  Ideally he should have a combination of selfies and clips. Finding eWhoring Packs only a Google Search.  These can be found on Tumblr, Torrent and file hosting sites like Dropbox or Mega then downloaded to their Computer/Smartphone.   Some are available for free via forums (mostly coming from leaks) and others are commercial picture sets where a girl  was actually paid to model, and will often contain images of her holding a blank sign. That is where the eWhore can add text to simulate an authentic verification picture. If Bob is good at Photoshop, he can alter the photos somewhat so that they can avoid a reverse image search, making his scam somewhat harder to spot.

With this simple setup, Bob can start fishing for clients. A simple Google Search for ‘sexting forums’