Sleeping Girls Turn You On?
Hi, I’m Gigi Engle. I’m a sex educator for Arousr and today we’re going to be talking about what it means if you’re turned on by your partner when they are sleeping or a Somno Kink as it’s commonly referred to.
In this video, you’ll find out what it means to be into your partner when you’re sleeping and ways that you can play this kink out in a way that is safe and consensual for all parties involved.
So, what is a SOMNO kink? A SOMNO kink is when you are erotically charged or turned on by the idea of your partner sleeping. This might mean watching them when they sleep. It may also be the idea that you’re turned on by having sex with someone who is unconscious. You have to be extremely clear that a person who is sleeping cannot give consent to sex. So while you might have this erotic fantasy, it is not okay to touch somebody who is asleep. We have to be very clear about that.
Now, you can be turned on by this for a lot of reasons. This may have happened in childhood. Perhaps you associated something erotic with sleeping. For instance, like Sleeping Beauty. Maybe you thought that was really sexy and it kind of gave you a little something and that kind of gave you this interest in a song no kink later in life. Or it could be that it just developed as you got older and you just discovered it was something that was on your erotic menu. Either way, kinks developed for a lot of complicated reasons.
So if you’re interested in a Somno kink, how can you play it out with a partner without violating anyone’s consent? Well, first of all, you want to have clear and open communication with your partner about this fantasy that you’re interested in. And you have to be prepared for a “Yes” and be prepared for a “No” because not everybody is going to be into this. And, that’s true with all kinks and fetishes and we have to be grateful and be willing to take a “No” with empathy.
Next, you can ask your partner if they would be willing to pretend to be asleep. That could be part of the role play. They pretend to be asleep and then everybody is enthusiastically consenting to the play. As long as everybody is an enthusiastic consenting adult, you are in the clear with this kind of play.
Lastly, if your partner is okay with it and they’re okay with them actually being asleep and you just watching them while they sleep, that is okay. As long as you’re not touching them, because that way you’re engaging with them in an enthusiastic and consenting way, but you’re not touching someone who is asleep, which, again, is a consent violation.
Now, remember that all kinks happen for a variety of reasons. There’s nothing wrong with having this kink or having this erotic fantasy as long as you play it out or engage with it in a way that is safe for everybody involved. So if you really like this video, you are going to absolutely love our video on Hypnosis Kinks, which is up next. Be sure to subscribe if you’re interested in more Kink Education and of course you can learn a lot more on Arousr. And definitely go ahead and share this with someone who you think might have similar kinks to yours, because the more we share, the better everyone does.
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