What is Femdom and why Men submit to a Dominatrix

Men have enjoyed worshipping Women for centuries. Whether that be chatting online or on their knees in a Dungeon, Female Domination is a very powerful kink that has been around since Aristotle.

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You can see very early drawn depictions of a woman riding him through his courtyard. If a master visionary of his time eons ago knew how to give in to the power of females then he must have really been an intellectual.

1. What is Femdom according to Pop Culture
2. How to find a Femdom
3. Safe Ways to Explore Being A Submissive

According to Aychsa White from The Link, Men who submit to Women do not get enough of a voice in society. They are far too often seen as weak due to the fact that they enjoy being dominated and don’t feed into the typical Alpha stereotypes. This could not be further from the truth and is an incredibly reductive way to see gender role reversal play. Let’s dig into a little Dominatrix history today and let you be the judge as to whether or not you would be the perfect candidate to surrender complete control and submit to a Domme.

What is Femdom according to Pop Culture

Females being worshipped as Domme’s started showing up in popular films in the early 1960s but they have been recorded since ancient Egypt hieroglyphic depictions. How do we celebrate and glamorize people playing roles in modern-day? We make movies about them. Here are a few notable movie stars who have played a Dominatrix over the past few decades you probably remember.

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Barb Wire, released in 1996 features an international sex symbol of that era, Pamela Anderson. In this film, she plays a bounty hunter who during a scene poses as a Domme in order to capture a bad guy. Throughout the entire film, however, she is donning various skin-tight leather-clad outfits that harkens back to being a lifestyle Domme.

Not long after Bride of Chucky was released in 1998 starring cult movie favorite Jennifer Tilly who plays Chucky’s girlfriend. She dresses up in full domme corset and glove attire lures a man into her home to handcuff him to her bed.

Then infamously in Mr. and Mrs. Smith in 2005, Angelina Jolie poses as a Dominatrix to gain access to a Saudi Sheek. In that scene, she is dressed up in full PVC and fishnet attire. It’s one of the most re-watched scenes in that movie. Also, Not too far off from a recent real life story that was shared when we had a chat with Fetish model/Domme Masuimi Max about the subject of women being in control of Men.

Sex advocate Amber Rose has also been quoted stating that she most enjoys toying with rich and powerful men to make them submit to her feminine wiles.

How to find a Femdom

There may seemingly be too many options for you to choose from when it comes to finding someone to roleplay with online. The internet is a highly saturated place to be these days in any genre. However, there are a few key qualities one should look for before submitting to a Domme. This is a surefire way to make sure you are not trying to explore submission with someone whose heart really isn’t into this kind of kink due to their lack of knowledge/experience.

Safe words – This is very important to establish before you get into any kink play. For Example: Pick a word such as “Red” and use that word whenever you feel that things are going past your comfort level. Establish your boundaries by always using this safeword between you and your Domme. Any experienced Domme is going to ask you this before you get into play of any sort.

They Tell, They Don’t Ask! – A real Domme will never ask you for permission or your advice. They will always be directing the scene you are in. This means you are giving up all control to her. You go where she tells you, you do as she says, without any excuses.

Submissive training – When you make a mistake your Domme will punish you. She will not let you fall out of line and get away with it. Ever.

Safe Ways to Explore Being a Submissive

The best way to start exploring a new kink is to start watching videos about it. Some of the movies listed above are great more PG ways to see if this may peak your interest without compromising your browser history. If you find that being submissive trigger you, in a good way, I highly suggest you delve a little bit deeper next into erotic stories. We have an excellent one a Chat Host Expert wrote recently about training her submissive. Reading Erotica helps you use your own imagination and not solely rely on hardcore porn sites/images to be stimulated mentally. We all know that mental stimulation naturally leads to physical pleasure.

Another excellent option after you’ve read enough Erotica to make you hot and bothered is to Sext anonymously. The fact that you don’t have to see anyone when you’re new to exploring the kink world (or not so new) is a way for you to release any anxiety around it. You feel less put on the spot to act out orders and you can more quietly submit to them in your mind.

If you’re feeling bold and comfortable in your new role as a Submissive you can move into video chats from the safety, comfort, and discretion of your own home. There are now just as many perfectly qualified Internet Domme’s as there are in real Dungeons these days.

About the Author: Femme Fatale

Femme Fatale is the Media Manager, Brand Ambassador, and Writer for Arousr