Kink Play and Consent – How Men Can Establish Boundaries

Are you unsure how to discuss sexual boundaries in your relationship? I’ve got a few tips for you. Hi, I’m Elaine Turner, a clinical sexologist with Arousr, and today I want to give you a few tips on how you can discuss your sexual boundaries.

A Few Tips to Open Up Kink Interests

Talking about kink play and sexual boundaries can be nerve wracking, but it really doesn’t have to be. I’ve got a few tips for opening up that conversation. If your kink is important to you, you need to feel comfortable talking about it. So, try practicing that conversation with someone you trust, like a friend, or like me, a Sexologist. That way, when you bring it up to a romantic interest, you’re more confident and ready to go.

Watch Interesting Movies

If you’re unsure of how to start that conversation with your partner, maybe look up a movie that runs tangentially to your kink. Like, of course, with BDSM, you can watch 50 Shades of Gray, and in that way, it’s a natural segue into that boundaries conversation.

Take a Kink Quiz

Then, of course, if you’re unsure of your boundaries, take a quiz. You can’t really open up that kinky conversation without knowing where your own sexual boundaries lie. So once you take that quiz with your partner, you can both compare your results and you’ll have endless topics to cover. Then, once you’ve discussed those boundaries, you kind of need to keep that conversation going with an ongoing check in system, establish time outside of the sexual interaction to discuss these things somewhere outside of the bedroom as well, so there’s a lot less pressure on the conversation.

Conclusion

What’s most important here is to be open and honest about what you’re experiencing. Your partner wants to bring you pleasure too. So stay tuned for more kink education by hitting the subscribe button on our channel. Share this video with your other kinky friends as well. Remember that you can always explore your kink safely and anonymously on Arousr with some of our Verified Women. Stay tuned and I’ll see you soon!