Dick pics are thought of by many as the scourge of sexuality. But that doesn’t stop millions of men from taking and sending them over sex chat messages and while trading nudes.

So how come dick pics are so popular?

Men are visual creatures. Some guys can watch porn or look at pictures of women’s boobs and butts all day long especially while sharing sexting numbers. All seven days of the week and 52 weeks of the year. In general, women aren’t like that Men naturally assume if they like looking at nude pictures of women. Women must like pictures of naked men, too. Wrong!! Usually.

In Ogi Ogas and Sal Gaddam’s book, A Billion Wicked Thoughts, they found in deciphering a billion sex-related Internet search terms that the No. 1 and 2 visual sexual turn-ons for women were smiles and eyes.

As a sex blogger, over the years, the top complaint I’ve heard from women about dick pics while adult chat is that they hate having a picture of a penis. And nothing but a penis assaulting them on their smart phones. Many chat girls say that they hate seeing just a penis with no body or face to go along with it. Some women go as far to say that dick pics are the visual equivalent to being sexually assaulted or raped. The second top complaint of girls that want to sext have about dick pics is that they hate seeing what’s in the background. Usually a messy bathroom or bedroom.

To be fair, taking a visually appealing dick pic is hard

Even David Rolin, an award-winning erotic photographer with 35 years or experience says it’s hard for him. “I’m not any better than anyone else,” David says. “You can’t see through the viewfinder for composition and lighting. It’s like, “Keep trying until you get a good one.’ If anyone ever asks me for one, I always send one taken by an ex.”

It’s also hard to get a camera far enough away from the … ahem … subject matter, as well. A selfie stick or a smart phone tripod can help. Timer apps on smart phones can give you enough time to set yourself up to frame. A better composed shot from a distance to show off your entire body. As well as those sexy eyes and a smile dirty sexting girls find so appealing. Bad lighting flatter most men’s skin tones and makes cell phone shots look grainy and blurry. Take advantage of natural daylight on a sunny day close to the biggest southern facing (northern facing if you live in the Southern Hemisphere) of your house.

It may feel odd to pose for a dick pic

, but if you really believe that you can impress a woman with your snake trouser when it wants to come out to play, composition and creativity are everything. For advice and inspiration, check out the cock shots on Google. The women who run website for these can be harsh. But they don’t shame. Critiques from them always give guys things to consider what the dick pic recipient may be seeing, what the dick pic owners are doing wrong in their phallic photos, and some things they could do better.

Moreover, it’s always best to ask permission to send a dick pic. Some women don’t mind receiving them like many of the chat hosts on AROUSR who love sex pics. However, many of them don’t mind talking about them or giving suggestions of how to make them better.  It is confidential. You won’t get outed to friends or on social media. But if you have some thoughts or suggestions you’d like to share about dick pics, we’d love to hear from you in our comments section.