{"id":15328,"date":"2021-03-15T16:31:45","date_gmt":"2021-03-15T16:31:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/?p=15328"},"modified":"2025-11-05T00:58:56","modified_gmt":"2025-11-05T00:58:56","slug":"how-do-i-ask-someone-to-be-my-sex-or-phone-sex-buddy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/how-do-i-ask-someone-to-be-my-sex-or-phone-sex-buddy\/","title":{"rendered":"How Do I Ask Someone to Be My Sex or Phone Sex Buddy?"},"content":{"rendered":"

How Do I Ask Someone to Be My Sex or Phone Sex Buddy?<\/h1>\n

Who doesn\u2019t want a friend with benefits? It\u2019s the best of all worlds: you get the connection of having a friend, plus your friend is sexy, and you (hopefully!) click in the bedroom. You also don\u2019t have all the relationship obligations, like planning for the future and other things that can get tedious. There\u2019s always a slight possibility for things to evolve into something more serious. But only if you\u2019re both on the same page. The question<\/a> on many people\u2019s minds is how to ask someone to be your sex or phone sex buddy? Let\u2019s talk about how to make the jump from flirty acquaintances to friends with benefits.<\/p>\n

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1. If You\u2019re Just Friends<\/h2>\n

Making the move from friends to friends with benefits is scary because you have something to lose: your friendship. This situation is the one that requires the most care so that you don\u2019t mess up the already awesome connection that you have. Before starting, make sure this is a risk that you\u2019re willing to take.<\/p>\n

1.1. Talk About it<\/h3>\n

Next, it\u2019s important to delineate between a conversation about feelings and a conversation about sex. The conversation you don\u2019t want to have in order to start a friends-with-benefits situation is a feelings conversation. So, keep the emotions out of it. And don\u2019t try to change someone\u2019s mind if you know they are looking for a serious relationship. This will only make you both unhappy. And you will end up having the fights and conversations you were trying to avoid in the first place.<\/p>\n

Also, try to keep the conversation lighthearted. Even a serious discussion about sex can feel like you\u2019re asking for a commitment or wanting a partner rather than sex or phone sex buddy.<\/p>\n

1.2. Change the Tone<\/h3>\n

The best way to ask someone to be your sex buddy is to change the tone of your relationship from a dedicated friend to a dedicated friend that you would definitely sleep with. So, bring it up nonchalantly. For example, you could say something along the lines of, \u201cI don\u2019t have time for a relationship right now. But if you\u2019re ever in the market for some no-strings-attached sex, I\u2019m your guy. Or, just tell her you to find her attractive. Then, if she seems uncomfortable, stop and find a different sex buddy.<\/p>\n

1.3. Try Calling Your Phone Sex Buddy<\/h3>\n

If you want to find a phone sex buddy, the best time to ask is when you\u2019re on the phone. Just make sure there\u2019s no pressure to make the transition at that very second. When the vibe feels right and you are successfully flirting, say something like this.\u201cThis was fun, but maybe next time we talk on the phone, we should both be naked”. Gauge the other person\u2019s reaction and be prepared to back off if it doesn\u2019t go over well.<\/p>\n

2. If You\u2019ve Already Dated or Slept Together<\/h2>\n

If you want to turn someone you\u2019ve recently slept with into a phone sex buddy, the hard part is already done. You already know you\u2019re both attracted to each other. And you already know that under certain circumstances, this person wants to sleep with you. If she liked the sex as much as you did, the odds are in your favor.<\/p>\n

2.1 Make it Memorable<\/h3>\n

The truth is that there is an orgasm gap in most heterosexual couples. The orgasm gap<\/a> represents the fact that heterosexual women are the least likely demographic<\/a> to have an orgasm during partnered sex\u2014a full thirty percent less likely than men. So, if you\u2019re a man and you\u2019re seeking a woman to be your sex buddy, you will have a pretty good shot as long as you were observant, generous, and responsive to suggestions when you slept together. Many women have found that while sex is easy to find, good sex is incredibly difficult to find.<\/p>\n

2.2 Move to the Next Level<\/h3>\n

If you already slept together and you want to be phone sex buddies, you would do the same thing as you would if you were friends. Ask sometimes when you\u2019re talking on the phone if she\u2019s up for moving things to the next level\u2014but only sexually.<\/p>\n

3. If You\u2019re Strangers<\/h2>\n

It\u2019s easiest to find a phone sex buddy<\/a> among strangers. You have nothing to lose, and there\u2019s a lot less chance that you will have created an awkward situation in your friend group if things go poorly. You can bring up your interest in a phone sex buddy or friends with benefits by putting it right into your dating profile. Or, if you meet someone in real life, tell them that while you find them very attractive, you\u2019re only available for casual stuff right now.<\/p>\n

3.1 Check the Right Site<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019re not having any luck finding someone to be your phone sex buddy, you might be looking on the wrong sites. Use a site<\/a> that\u2019s specifically meant for having phone sex can help. But make sure they verify the users\u2019 ages and will protect your privacy. There\u2019s someone out there who wants to have phone sex with you, so keep looking until you find them!<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":14207,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[235],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15328","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-advice"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nHow to Get a Phone Sex Buddy Right Here on Arousr<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"You know that getting a phone sex buddy is a tough task. 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