{"id":14894,"date":"2020-11-27T18:54:51","date_gmt":"2020-11-27T18:54:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/?p=14894"},"modified":"2026-05-11T13:16:40","modified_gmt":"2026-05-11T13:16:40","slug":"edging-orgasm-denial","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/edging-orgasm-denial\/","title":{"rendered":"Edging &#038; Orgasm Denial"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 fusion-flex-container nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row fusion-flex-align-items-flex-start fusion-flex-content-wrap\" style=\"max-width:956.8px;margin-left: calc(-4% \/ 2 );margin-right: calc(-4% \/ 2 );\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-flex-column\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;--awb-width-large:100%;--awb-margin-top-large:0px;--awb-spacing-right-large:1.92%;--awb-margin-bottom-large:20px;--awb-spacing-left-large:1.92%;--awb-width-medium:100%;--awb-order-medium:0;--awb-spacing-right-medium:1.92%;--awb-spacing-left-medium:1.92%;--awb-width-small:100%;--awb-order-small:0;--awb-spacing-right-small:1.92%;--awb-spacing-left-small:1.92%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-column-has-shadow fusion-flex-justify-content-flex-start fusion-content-layout-column\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><h1><b>Why Edging &amp; Denial Are Your Best Kept Secrets For Tantric Sex<\/b><\/h1>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>In an everyday society as humans, we tend to be programmed for instant gratification. From fast food to even quicker access porn everything is at our fingertips. This is progress, saving time and getting things quickly, cheaply, and easily. However, too much instant gratification when it comes to our pleasures can actually seriously hinder how much pleasure we are capable of achieving!<\/strong> <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Just because it\u2019s fast doesn\u2019t always mean it\u2019s good my friends. Today, I\u2019m going to give you more insight into why sexual kinks such as edging and denial are your new best-kept secrets in the bedroom and beyond. It\u2019s time for your tantric education on one of the world\u2019s oldest tricks in the book stemming back into the fourth century A.D.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-14896 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Screen-Shot-2020-11-27-at-1.53.23-PM.png\" alt=\"Edging &amp; Orgasm Denial\" width=\"419\" height=\"549\" srcset=\"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Screen-Shot-2020-11-27-at-1.53.23-PM-200x262.png 200w, https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Screen-Shot-2020-11-27-at-1.53.23-PM-229x300.png 229w, https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Screen-Shot-2020-11-27-at-1.53.23-PM-400x524.png 400w, https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Screen-Shot-2020-11-27-at-1.53.23-PM.png 419w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 419px) 100vw, 419px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2><b>What Is Edging?<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Edging is when a high level of sexual arousal is consistently maintained for an extended period of time. Ready for the clincher? No orgasm, I repeat <\/span><b>no orgasm<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can be reached during edging. Edging is arousal at its most simplistic. It\u2019s the act\/state of being aroused by one-self or with a playmate.\u00a0 The exact same rules apply to edging to all genders which is why it\u2019s a very easy kink to introduce into your sex life.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The point of edging is to get you worked up. To the point where you feel as though you are close to cumming but that is the point where you slow things down and start over again. Think of it this way. How do you test the engine of a car to make sure it works for the long road ahead? Well, you turn it on, you step on the gas and after revving the engine you turn it off. This is the exact same process that applies to edging for beginners. How do you know how long you can go for (physically) if you don\u2019t test your own stamina first?\u00a0 It\u2019s a loop of ramping up and ramping down of your own sexual engines and it\u2019s fucking HOT.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The practice of edging comes with benefits outside of the act itself. The top three benefits of edging are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Can increase the intensity of your orgasm when you let yourself cum<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Aids in reaching more orgasmic states for those who find it difficult to reach full climax (without the mental pressure of having to climax)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For premature ejaculators, edging can help increase stamina to make sexual encounters last longer over time.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><b>What is Orgasm Denial?<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Denial one could say who is well versed in BDSM tactics is the graduation from edging.\u00a0 Edging is tantric and sensual (where the end goal is to reach orgasm) while denial is a bit more\u2026 hardcore. It\u2019s meant to completely disrupt the orgasm before it takes place. It\u2019s not so much about the ramping up and down aspect we discussed above in the edging section. It\u2019s also not meant to be on a loop. It\u2019s more so done between the submissive and dominant roleplay scenarios. Where the submissive hands over their ability to orgasm to their dominant. Or with partners, one partner will have control over when the other partner reaches climax\u2026 or <\/span><b><i>does not<\/i><\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Instead of \u201cOh baby, right there\u201d it\u2019s \u201cI own you, and I say you don\u2019t get to cum\u201d. That\u2019s the thing about denial. It\u2019s not about when you get to orgasm it\u2019s about if you will be allowed to cum and both ideas of cumming or <\/span><b><i>not<\/i><\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> cumming turn you on equally.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Denial, simply put is about denying yourself the ability to orgasm. However, it\u2019s much more complicated from a physiological level. It\u2019s really reverse psychology of your sexuality. As mentioned in the beginning we are hard-wired for instant gratification in today\u2019s society. Denial is the re-wiring of those triggers. With denial, you can reach states of mental arousal vs. physical from by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.healthline.com\/health\/healthy-sex\/semen-retention\">having your orgasm withheld<\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Denial and edging as you can now see while similar in ways are distinctly different. They don\u2019t go hand in hand but they can for some. That is exactly why it\u2019s fun to experiment and see what arouses you most. Where better to experiment with your own personal needs than <a href=\"https:\/\/arousr.com\/sex-chat\/\">on Arousr with a sex chat pro?<\/a> No shame, no embarrassment, just you, your privacy, and an open mind needed. Let\u2019s see where this road can take you and your sexual engine.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>About the Author<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019m Femme Fatale, Fetish model, and Alpha Tamer. I have a vast knowledge and affinity for Fetish culture. You can find me every week writing for <\/span><b><i>Arousr <\/i><\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">and if you&#8217;re lucky you might even see me available to chat online! My <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">favorite fetish is Domination.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":15392,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[211],"tags":[206],"class_list":["post-14894","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-sex-education","tag-edging"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14894","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14894"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14894\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":18424,"href":"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14894\/revisions\/18424"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15392"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14894"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14894"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arousr.com\/content\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14894"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}